Do what seems best to you,” her husband Elkanah told her…(1 Sa 1:23).
Elkanah and Hannah had something all relationships, especially marriages would thrive with. They had mutual trust and open communication. On more than one account Elkanah trusts his wife Hannah and supports her in the step she’s believing the Lord is asking her to take.
You see, a good man, or woman, trusts the voice of God in the life of their loved one Without that kind of trust, each person will keep trying to grab for control. Which only stifles the good work of God in the life of the fearful one. God will find other ways to bless the one whom He’s speaking to, but He will not in the life of the one whose trying to control the plans of God in the heart of the one who is close to them.
Not only did Elkanah trust his wife, but he also blessed her in her barrenness. How often do we look at family members who have a need and think poor thoughts of them? Maybe they can’t give us what we had hoped for or wanted. They don’t meet the expectations that we had of a spouse, child, or sibling and so instead of blessing them and comforting them in their need we shame them and make them feel bad for not meeting our expectations.
Ouch, that one really hurts. Mostly because I’ve seen myself do it so many times. It is so damaging to view people, not as someone to love, but someone to receive things from. Then, when they don’t meet your expectations you cast them in some terrible light, painting a picture of them in your mind and heart that is destructive.
It’s no wonder so many families are suffering.
Lord, help us to value, honor, and bless others by putting their needs above our own, in Jesus name, Amen.