23 For lack of discipline they will die, led astray by their own great folly. (Pr 5:23).
Have you ever tried to hold something under water? Maybe a ball, a person, or something else? Do you know what happens when you let those things go? They rise to the top.
The Lord has been teaching me the power of letting things go in my life. Letting people go mostly, and my idea of what should or shouldn’t be for my life.
In my marriage I used to think it was important to make sure my husband prioritized my needs. I thought it was imperative that before we move forward on things that my needs, wants and desires were heard seen and valued. When you have two people operating like that, you just keep drowning one another.
Instead, I’ve learned the value of letting things go and because of that I’m seeing things in my life rise to the top. My husband has grown so much this year as a leader, provider, father and husband. I think it’s because, on many levels, I finally let him go and started putting his needs before my own.
When my daughter gets older, I can feel already how hard this will be for me, but I’m praying for the same grace to let her go, not control her or metaphorically hold her under water until she sees things my way. I want to watch her rise to the top and if I’ve taught her how to swim, then she should be able to do it on her own.
But how do we do that? How do we let spouses, children, jobs, fears and insecurities go? I think we have to take seriously these words of Jesus and put them into practice daily, “Very truly I tell you, unless a kernel of wheat falls to the ground and dies, it remains only a single seed. But if it dies, it produces many seeds.” (John 12:24)
So maybe letting people and things go is really about learning how to die so that we can place their needs before our own. After all, a dead person doesn’t need that much do they? Except to be watered by the good gardener so that He can grow them into something beautiful.
So friend, if you want your life to be a beautiful garden full of His love to the world try dying and stop making every decision about what’s best for you. Discipline yourself to stop loving yourself first, but instead choose to put others first in your life and stop holding them under water. You’ll find that each decision you make will actually be harder for awhile, because dying to yourself really isn’t all that fun, but in the end it will produce fruit, as you watch the people and things in your life rise to the top instead of being drowned by your own hand.
Father, I want to live as a woman who lets things and people go. Show me what I’ve been holding onto that is unhealthy. Grant us your peace and grace each new day. May our hearts be satisfied in you always, in Jesus name, Amen.